I was watching the latest episode of SS小燕之夜 - 孫協志 韓瑜 一起許下幸福的決定 and there was an interesting statement made.
He mentioned that to love someone you will need to love all her strength and weakness. Sometimes when we love someone, we think that the person is the kind of person we like and so when there is conflict, we expect the person to think for us and behave the way we want him/her to behave. When he/she doesn't, we get angry but how can someone behave the way we want him/her to be when he/she is not that person. Hence, we shouldn't be looking at how to change a person but to embrace him/her for who he/she is.
I totally agree with the above. Many times, I see my mum complaining about the things or way my dad handle a situation but that's not who him in the first place and how can we expect him to do it. Are we asking for too much and making our life miserable? Or when there are times when I get fustrated when they don't do things my way? But when we are getting angry and fustrated did we step back and think that the other party is feeling the same but becos of love, they are willing to embrace our nonsense. So let's all learn to embrace each other weakness and not insist that the person change for you.
I know it is not easy but at the heated moments, let's all not focus on the weakness but think deeper for the strengths.
Life is very simple and can be very happy if we choose not to complicate it and adding different expectations.
