Friendship

I meet up with my friends for dinner at my favourite Japanese restaurant - Waraku Japanese Restaurant...it served very authentic Japanese food at a very reasonable price.

Below are some of the dishes that we order

Appetizers:

starting from left: Hotate Mayonnaise - yummy & cheesy!, Hotate butter, Age dashi Tofu, Okonomi Yaki (japanese pancake)

Main course:

Clockwise from left: Katsu Don, Sashimi 3 Kinda, Chanpon Udon, Hotate Kaminabe, Chicken Kaminabe

That's all the pictures we have that day as usual my friends are all camera shy so my blog will be an wordy one.

During the dinner, we were recalling our days working together. Back then we were all young (not that we are super old now) and fresh out of school, we work and play real hard together. When we were all together, there will be endless laughter and jokes. Now that we have all moved on to different places, we realise that we have the most fun working together... it has nothing to do with the company or our roles but because we make true friends in the process.

This make me think of a book that i have been reading for the past weeks...A Brand New Friend.

Storyline:

When Rob's girlfriend asks him to leave London and live with her in Manchester, it means leaving behind his friends in the entire world. Believing that Love can conquers all and confident that he'll meet new friends, Rob takes the plunge. Six months in, and yet to find so much as a regular drinking buddy, Rob realise that sometimes making friends in your thirties can be the hardest thng to do. With drastic action needed, his girlfriend places an ad in the classifieds for him. Three excruciatingly embrassing "bloke dates" later, he's on the verge of despair until his luck changes. There's just one problem. Apart from knowing less than nothing about music trivia, football, and the vital statistics of supermodels, Rob's new friend has a huge flaw. She's a girl.

I agreed a lot with the points that the author make about making friends.

In the book, it mentioned that by thirties, we will have meet most of our friends and is pretty difficult to find new friends unless it is through work. If you notice, not all the friends that you meet through work will actually last very long since once you moved on to another job, you will most likely start to lost touch with them since it required a huge effort to always stay in touch. On the other hand, you will be also meeting new friends from your new job and the friendship from your previous job start to fade off.

Another point that was mentioned in the book was that when we start a relationship, our life start to surround our partner. He/she become our focus in life. We will not be hanging out with our friends but girlfriend's of your boyfriend's friends. When our relationship ended and we will try to return to our old friends but we are no longer close to them since you are no longer able to fit into their life since they have move on and many changes have happened in their life which we can't relate anymore. We will be building our friendship all over again. Hence, the point is not to neglect your friends when you are starting a relationship as they are usually the ones who will be there when you hit the rough patch. Furthermore, sometimes the opposite sex just can't understand your views and only your true friends stay by you and hear through all your sorrows.

Friendship is like every relationship which requires alot of maintence and effort on all parties. Even though i am not one that has alot of friends but at least i have friends whom i can share my joys and sorrows with. It is real fortunate for me to be able to meet people who i can click with. I will definetly put in effort to see that these friendship last till my old age or even when we move on to the different phases of our lives.